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February 2016: Twelve Markers of High-Functioning Leadership

February 1, 2016

A company president asked, “What are some of the leadership goals you try to promote?”

 

I sent him the following list, and offer it to a wider audience of leaders for consideration:

 

Agnostic curiosity

Asking a question with the attitude of wanting to discover something new:

“I’m more interested in exploring than in leading you to my solution.”

 

Humble swagger

Confidence tempered by the sober recognition of dumb luck in one’s success:

“Yes, I’ve worked hard, and acknowledge my talent.  At the same time, I can see that ‘privilege’ and ‘breaks’ gave me great advantages.”

 

Flexible firmness

Firm conviction moderated by openness to new information and insight:

“This is what I believe now, but I’m open to review.”

 

Discernment before deciding

Looking at all sides of an issue or belief instead of “jumping” based on emotion:

“There’s no easy answer to most important decisions, so I’ll reflect before concluding.”

 

Connection without fusion

Maintaining togetherness without the impinging “demands” of intense attachment:

“I want to experience closeness and connection while distinguishing ‘me’ from ‘us’”

 

Belief without persuasion

Holding a strong belief without the need to convince others you are right:

“I’m not saying I’m ‘right’.  This is my belief, and others have the right to their beliefs.”

 

Emotional self honesty and emotional self-regulation

Knowing what you are feeling while choosing whether and how to express it:

“I’m in tune with my feelings, but my feelings don’t control me.”

 

Self-purpose without selfishness

Clearly defining what you want without making it everything:

“I know what I want and where I want to go, but I’m not the center of the Universe.”

 

Need-based helpfulness

Distinguishing between genuine need and fake need before offering help:

“I modify my desire to be helpful based on whether dispensing help makes sense.”

 

Influence without control

Helping others grow without telling them what to do:

“I allow my behavior to speak for itself; I don’t know what’s best for others.”

 

Comfort with discomfort

Learning to embrace the emotional discomfort that leads to progress:

“I’m able to choose discomfort and sacrifice for the sake of a greater good.”

 

Favoring “contributing factors” over “cause”

Thinking more deeply, and realizing there’s rarely a single cause for any problem:

“I am suspicious of simplistic solutions to complex problems.”

It would be irresponsible of me not to emphasize that the above markers of higher functioning invite a lifetime of work.  The commitment to become one’s best self is neither short-term nor discipline-free.

 

Dedicating oneself to a lifetime of work on anything appears counter-cultural in an era when “instant” messaging, superficial “tweeting” and abbreviation-littered “texting” dominate.

For this reason, many leaders (including myself) have found it helpful to engage a sounding board, confidant or coach to assist with progress on these important aspects of emotional well-being.

 

 

5 Responses to “February 2016: Twelve Markers of High-Functioning Leadership”

  1. February 01, 2016 at 2:44 pm, Lisa Smith said:

    John, thank you for the reminders, each of these markers is important as well as the reminder that it is a commitment over time and takes thoughtful practice.

  2. February 02, 2016 at 1:35 am, John Cammack said:

    A commendable set of attributes.

  3. February 11, 2016 at 1:15 pm, Lynn Acquafondata said:

    Outstanding list. I love the use of contrasting states and approaches in each of these. It shows how good leadership involves working towards internal as well as external balance.

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  5. February 25, 2016 at 11:44 pm, Joseph Engels said:

    Dad, I like these attributes. I especially like your comments at the end. Dedication is more against, than with, the cultural tide right now, and I think the expectation of immediacy (pervading communication, sexual relationships, entertainment, and food prep, to name a few venues) has primed us away from a view that recognizes slow progress. Cheers.

 

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