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April 2014: Broaching a Relationship Cut-off: Two Recent Stories

APRIL 1, 2014

Emotional cutoff refers to the process of reactively separating, isolating, withdrawing, running away from or denying the importance of a family or other life-defining relationship.  Cutoff typically gets expressed by “not speaking” to another for an extended period of time, and/or going out of one’s way to avoid someone.

Cutoff is prompted and kept in place by a mix of lower maturity and higher anxiety. Higher-maturity families and organizations experience less frequent and less intense relationship cutoffs.  Low maturity families experience more intense chronic anxiety and are more vulnerable to relationship cutoff.  It’s likely that all families experience some degree of cutoff.